With all the issues, complications, challenges, and frustrations we face as victims and survivors of domestic violence, the last thing we need is to try to force ourselves to fit into an assistance program that does not understand the problems we face and how they are affected, and in some cases, compounded by our ethnic, cultural, and faith-based backgrounds. This is a truly global problem, and we are not created from cookie-cutter molds. I think it is excellent to see so many programs developing to handle our circumstances according to these differences so we do not find ourselves forced to accept help without the understanding, respect, and compassion toward our individual values that we all deserve.
No doubt, you have already begun to see how important this is to me over the past few weeks in the multi-cultural videos I have begun posting. The evidence lies in the content of the videos themselves. I spend hours searching for, viewing, and sometimes re-viewing videos before I post them. Many things are considered before I publish them: trigger content, appropriateness, vulgarity, etc. But the most important thing I look for is content that will be beneficial for those who watch it.
Trigger content is a big issue for me. Few things trigger me by way of written word or even scents, but certain sounds and images can wreak havoc on me emotionally. I consider myself to be pretty stable and resilient; yet I have watched too many videos that bothered me so much I could not bring myself to publish them here. My reasoning? If I find it harmful to myself, even taking into consideration my resilience, I know it will be so to many of you. And I believe to ignore this and push ahead and publish them here for the sake of posting would be cruel and unloving. While one of my goals is to get the information out, I refuse to willfully perpetuate more pain and suffering for those who have had to (or still do) endure abuse. This is about healing… healing myself and helping others heal in the process.
Helping others heal. This said, going forward, you will continue to see an increasing number of videos and hopefully articles posted that are aimed at specific cultures, religions, etc. Some content may even be in other languages. Where I am able, I will post any videos and articles not in English with subtitles or translation. Anything that makes it easier for us to each find the help that fits us. I also plan to work on updating the US and International Links pages to make more assistance resources available.
Over the next few weeks, you may see some bigger changes take place in regards to my blog format and content. The format changes are simply to make it easier for my readers to navigate the increasingly diverse types of content I am putting on my pages. In addition, I will be starting to include guest blogs on here as well. The qualifier? Simple. You have to be a survivor of domestic violence or an advocate (in many cases, both are true). For me this is not strictly limited to the victim him/herself. You can be the victim, a family member or friend who saw the abuse, a child who grew up in a home of domestic violence, a counselor, advocate, criminal advocate… I also include current spouses and significant others in this, as you must deal with the fall-out as well – the suffering, trauma, and pain do not end when the relationship ends.
If you have any suggestions for content that you would like to see on my blog or have information, articles, or videos you think would be helpful to others, please let me know. I do ask, however, that vulgarity be kept at a minimum.
Further, everything on my blog can re-blogged / borrowed as you see fit. I only ask that if you do not use the re-blog button, please link back to this blog.