A reminder to all of us from W.o.m.a.n. Inc’s blog about the insidous and invisible damage verbal abuse leaves in its wake. So many think that just because you cannot see the scars and hurt like you can with physical and sexual abuse it’s not abuse. However, it is, I believe, abuse in its worse form, because without a single instance of touch, it can destroy us and shatter not only our hearts but the value and respect and love we once had for ourselves. I also believe it is the hardest form of abuse to recover from, because what we learn over the course of time can take even more effort for us to not only reverse and purge but to fill in the space with positive things. Be kind and loving to yourselves. Speak about the verbal / emotional abuse you have endured, so that you can unburden your heart and also let others knows that they are not alone. Only with love and support can we heal.
What is Verbal Abuse?
Google “verbal abuse”. When the search results come up, you’ll notice that verbal abuse is often combined with emotional abuse. Other types of abuse that will pop up include physical, financial and sexual. While the psychological effects of verbal abuse and other forms of domestic violence (DV) are emotional, they can be identified by some key markers. Verbal violence is identified as something someone says to another person that intentionally changes their thoughts, feelings or behavior (ie. Verbal abuse is a mode of control). It’s associated with specific verbalizations, such as:
- Yelling or raising the volume of the voice
- Criticism, especially for independent achievements
- Withholding praise, especially for independent achievements
- Making mean jokes about appearance (“you’re ugly) or abilities (“you’re stupid”)
- Threatening physical violence
- Threatening to take something away that is important
Verbal abuse leaves no acute or visible marks of violence. No bruises or physical…
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